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Healthier men=healthier sex

March 9, 2010

Healthier men want more sex for more years

By Ashley Fantz, CNN
March 9, 2010 7:18 p.m. EST
CNN) — Healthier men, no matter their age, are going to have better sex more frequently and desire it more often than healthier women.

And a healthier sex life could mean a longer life.

That's according to a paper written by University of Chicago researchers that was published Tuesday in the British Medical Journal. While the supposition that men think about sex more than women isn't new, the paper's findings have wider implication for attitudes toward public health and how patients respond to doctors' advice, said Dr. Stacy Tessler Lindau, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology and geriatric medicine who spearheaded the research.

"If you are a man diagnosed with diabetes or high blood pressure and I tell you that you need to lose weight and take medication, and I can say the benefit is five extra years of sex life, you might be more inclined to do what I tell you," she explained.

Lindau said that women generally reported wanting less sex or receiving it less often for three reasons: Women outlive men by an average of five to six years and without a partner, women are less likely to engage in sex. Secondly, there's a Western cultural acceptance — and removal of stigma — of men who have erectile dysfunction and have turned to relatively recently marketed drugs such as Viagra; women don't have that.

"Also, there's a difference in how we treat women for other diseases that affect their sexual desire," Lindau said. "If a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer and she has, for example, her breasts removed, and we never counsel her about her sexual function, we start to realize how many years of life she's losing. Not doing those things could mean 10 years of lost sexual activity."

There are no FDA approved treatments for female sexual dysfunction other than estrogen to treat pain with intercourse, she said.

Lindau's paper was sponsored by the nonprofit Institute of Medicine.

The paper considers data from two previously published studies that included more than 6,000 men and women, split into two co-ed groups: The first was age 25 to 74. The second group was age 57 to 85. Ninety-eight percent of participants reported having sexual partners only of the opposite sex, she said. Roughly 80 percent of men and 65 percent of women in the study were married or living with a partner.

None of the study's participants was in a nursing home.

Questions were presented that asked them to give their relationship status and rate their health and the quality of their sex life from poor to excellent.

Excellent was defined not by the number of times someone had sex but the emotional and physical satisfaction of the experience. But, the survey described having sex "regularly" as two to three times a month, said Lindau.

Sex was defined to the 57- to 85-year-old group as "any mutually voluntary activity with another person that involves sexual contact, whether or not intercourse or orgasm occurs" in the past year. For the same time frame, those in the 25-74 age group were asked if they had "had sex with anyone."

Participants had the option of assigning a number rating to their sex life, including "0" for "the worst possible situation." That phrase was up to them to interpret, said Lindau.

The physician concluded that men are more likely to be sexually active, have what they believe is better sex and are consistently more interested in sex than women. This drive for sex among men and the feeling that the sex they get is high quality doesn't diminish with age. Lindau said it was difficult to ascertain exactly how many of these participants might have taken erectile dysfunction drugs.

If men stay in good shape, they can enjoy more years of good sex, the study says. At age 55, men in very good or excellent health on average gained five to seven years of sexually active life compared with their peers in poorer health. Women in very good shape gained 3 to 6 more years of a quality sex life than women who are less healthy.

For women 60 years and older, sex dropped off significantly overall and was even lower among those without partners. For men in that age range, having a partner didn't matter — they still wanted sex consistently, the study found.

Among 75- to 85-year-old men, four out of 10 were still having sex, compared with two out of 10 women that age. Women whose partners were still alive, however, were having just as much sex as men, said Lindau.

"I don't want to perpetuate the notion that older women don't desire sex," she said. "There's a glass half full here. There's a big hunk of older women still having sex. Women who initiate relationships later in life — they describe passionate love and sex like the way younger people do."

Lindau said she was frustrated that her sampling was limited to heterosexuals, a typical quandary many experience when testing this topic, she said. She hopes to conduct another study focusing on aging homosexuals, bisexuals or people whose biological sex cannot be classified as either male or female.


Thoughts on Sex Addiction

February 21, 2010

Psychologists disagree on whether sex addiction is real

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Sex toys and their rising popularity

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Importance of sex toys in a couple life: Popular couple toys

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Vibrating cock rings

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Strap-ons and clitoral vibrators

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Sex machines

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How to introduce toys in relationships?

Even though many couples have broken the barriers and have easily accommodated sex toys into their sex lives, a lot of couples are still hesitant. This is because one partner is often unsure about the reaction of the other partner. There are many ways to go about this. Some couples say that they want to add fun to their sex lives, some say they have heard so and so raving about a sex toy and some just express their desire by pointing out an article in a magazine or their favourite blog. The worst way to go about it is by saying that you are unhappy with your sex life and want to try something new. Even though you may be honest, the chances are your plan will backfire and you might unintentionally hurt your partner's feelings. Experimentation and communication are two things that can help you to introduce toys to your relationship.

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Published: 2/13/2010

Love knows no age limit….

Filed under: Relationships

February 14, 2010

Elderly couples more in love than ever

Updated Sat Feb 13, 2010 12:03pm AEDT

An elderly couple walk along a beach

Retirement can be like a second honeymoon for elderly couples. (www.sxc.hu: John Boyer, file photo)

Older couples are more in love than most and continue to have satisfying sex lives, despite some physiological hurdles, according to Canadian researchers.

Persons older than 65 obtained the highest scores of 119 and 120 points on the Spanier Dyadic Adjustment Scale, which measures couples' happiness, compared to the Canadian average of 114.

"It's a significant difference," said Gilles Trudel, a psychology professor at the University of Quebec in Montreal (UQAM).

The scale takes into account sexual satisfaction, but also how well couples communicate, function together in general, and their cohesion.

Researchers questioned 508 couples all from Quebec and all already pensioners, most aged over 65.

The fact that divorced couples were not included in the study could account for its optimistic results, as this left only results from happy older couples, Professor Trudel admits.

Alternately, he theorised that couples after they retire have much more time to spend together and do things couples do, "like a second honeymoon."

In some cases, retirement can have the reverse effect: with more time on their hands, marital problems that remained latent during many years focused on career or child-rearing suddenly surface.

This is accompanied by anxiety or depression twice as often in the elderly as with younger persons.

Finally, researchers noted a recent, albeit still marginal, phenomenon: old people almost never divorced in the past, but nowadays five to 6 per cent of gray-haired couples split up at age 70 or older - some of them because their partner fell in love at first sight with another.

And retirees' sex lives are no longer taboo.

"There's a myth" surrounding the sex lives of the elderly, Professor Trudel says.

But he suggest that is more to do with younger peoples' views of older relationships.

When we get older, "sexuality transforms, men can face erectile dysfunction, for women it's lube issues, but they can still have pleasure … with the help of medications or without," he said, recalling comments by study participants.

These interviews were conducted with absolute discretion, which increased their reliability: subjects were asked questions and responded by selecting a button on a computer that recorded their answers anonymously.

Through their research, UQAM's psychologists also offered elderly couples in group sessions some relationship tips such as communicating more, never cutting off your spouse and sharing feelings.

Most important was to never believe that you know already what a person is going to say and so conclude that listening to them is not important.

- AFP


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